2017년 4월 20일 목요일

My opinion posting from "Take a stand"

'Take a stand' topic : Childern should be nurtured independently from their parents.

People think that over-control occurs in chaotic or dysfunctional household,
but it is often seen in normal or model families.
If children were raised in the home that could be portrayed as "perfectionism, overprotection, dictatorship, rigorous family, authoritarian family, harsh family, restrained family" and so on, I think there must be over-control. so, let's look at the problems caused by over-control.

First, the consequences of unhealthy parenting create an adult with the distortion of feelings, desires, and thoughts. if one's life is in danger, everyone must avoid the situation. but, they who received unhealthy parenting can't control their minds and difficult situational awareness.

Second, you have probably heard the following word "Helicopter parents". it means parents who always walk around the children, resolve the problem every time with the children and know too much about children. children raised under helicopter parents are not self-reliant, and they have never solved  problems in a strange situation by themselves.

Third, due to parents' excessive obsession, children become less aware of themselves, lower self-esteem, and rarely make their own decisions. also, they have difficulties a lot about problems even though it is small failures  or trials. even they make extreme choices like death because thay are not nurtured independently.

Children should grow stronger with the love of their parents.
Good parents do not just give their children what they want but let their children get what they want and how to be patient. and they have to let the children know how to overcome difficult problems for themselves.
If children are too weak to be an adult and unable to defend themselves,  we all have to worry about. 
For these reasons, I strongly insist that children should be nurtured independently from their parents.

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